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fall festival Summer Recap

It’s fall! I know that a lot of people say we don’t get a fall here in Northern California but they’ve never spent time on campus I guess. I love to see the trees change and a little chill in the air is always fun here. I can wear a light jacket and not fear the pummeling of snow approaching, so I always try to welcome the change. It’s also just so novel at first that it feels okay. And hey, we’re celebrating 10 YEARS in California this fall! #californians

It’s been one of the best fall seasons though. We actually tried to kinda prepare for our pumpkin carving party—at least better than in previous years! I think we had 7 people over plus us to carve 9 pumpkins in total. They all turned out so good and it was hilarious to do something random with friends and make a giant yard-sized mess. Mariela skillfully cleaned and roasted all the pumpkin seeds from 9 pumpkins and did her specialty Santa Fe seasonings. She also made, not one, but two apple crisps! (One was gluten-free!) It reminded me of the time she made vegan Jell-O shots for me to take to work and someone said “omg that is sooooo #bayarea!”

So all of our pumpkins rotted by actual Halloween (so much for planning ahead eh!?), but we went over and gathered around a little bonfire in our friends’ front yard because they get trick-or-treaters. We made s’mores and checked out all the popular marvel costumes. It was such a great Halloween even though I didn’t even dress up this year!

Other obsessions for us have been our Vespas of course! I joke that if Mariela wouldn’t have gotten a classic white Vespa she would’ve already cleaned the color right off of hers!!! She keeps her Primavera spotless. We’ve had many hilarious project days doing random modifications to them—like adding racks for coffee (also serves as a speaker holder if you have the right Sonos portable speaker!), a rear rack for my camera bag, and swapping out the Primavera’s pod lights for Euro-style white break lights (we’ll post a video about that soon.) For now, here are some snaps of them out in the wild:


What else…

This photo is by Mariela because she’s an incredible photographer that should shoot MORE!!!

Oh, we finally returned to Sonoma with friends for our second-fourth annual wine country extravaganza!!! It was amazing as ever, especially after being stuck in the house for 2 years. We definitely raised the bar this time. Ridiculously fun time! It’s gonna be hard to beat the 6-person stretch, but safety-first sweetie!

I know what you’re thinking—what is happening with adoption!? Well, I’m happy to report that we did adopt! A teeny tiny black cat by the name of Olive Oyl!!! Hahaha she was such a little terror at first, but she’s grown into such a sweet kitteh and we love her so much.


But seriously we are still hoping to adopt internationally. We’re just on the conveyor belt of expiring documents that we tried sooooo hard to avoid. Still, we carry on and keep positive attitudes. Everything in life just has a process.

 

We keep very busy with our world of projects and silly things that seem to mean so much to only us! Speaking of, we’re working on a giant Lego installation in our workshop…there will be lots more about this in the future, but I can share a glimpse of our progress. I’m so happy to report that the LEGO Coaster is complete and open for ticket holders!

We’re not alone in this huge project though, we’ve pulled our dear dear old old old friend into it and he loves building whatever weird thing we suggest. It’s been so amusing to work on it. I can’t believe the amount of Lego we’ve accumulated. (Picture a filled garage of LEGO.)

Oh! We had family visit for almost a week and we took them everywhere—San Francisco's usual suspects of the Golden Gate, best tacos ever at La Taqueria, and Ritual Coffee. We took a beautiful and loooong drive down to Big Sur in the convertible for a primo viewing experience! We hadn’t been down there since buying the convertible!!?! What!? So we had lunch at Nepenthe and then stayed almost directly on the beach in Santa Cruz for a few days! Mariela won a jumbo prize at the boardwalk—and I’m talking “JUMBO!” It wouldn’t even fit in our car without the top down! So naturally, we had to give it away to young people on the beach that night (hilarious story that you have to hear from my brother-in-law and wife). We couldn’t imagine the weird airBnB charge for leaving an enormous Mrs. PacMan (PacLady?).

We also had a short stay in Half Moon Bay to visit a friend from out of state! Our first venture into staying at a Bed & Breakfast. It was nice, but also kind of as weird as I always thought it would feel. Mariela made us do the whole experience of the breakfast and that part was actually kinda fun because it’s California and it’s always nice enough to sit outside.

We were lucky enough to spent a lot of quality pooltimes with friends.

Finally saw Stevie Nicks again IN CONCERT and that felt like a dream come true. I never thought we’d see her again when the pandemic hit. It was such a phenomenal show. (Pro Tip: Ride a Vespa/motorcycle/scooter to Mountain View Shoreline Ampitheater because you get free VIP parking at the front door! #vespagang)

Amazingly, we also got to see ELTON JOHN live in CONCERT, too! Don’t even get me started about the parking situation in Santa Clara because I could rant about the fact that we thought we were doing the smart thing, the sensible thing, to rideshare instead of taking our car. HUGE MISTAKE. Never ever take a rideshare to Levi Stadium! We were literally stranded for 2 hours with unauthorized limos blocking all of the rideshare cars from entering the lot. They wanted hundreds of dollars to take people a mile…It felt like a bad dream after such a fun concert. Luckily, we have a ridiculously great friend that came to collect us at 1am! Whew. I am so thankful for him (for oh so many reasons).

And here’s just a random assortment of campus love photos because it truly is one of my favorite places on earth.

But I know the fall can be a tough time. The leaves changing and the early evenings can wear people down. So just remember to hang in there, just like our little Olive Oyl kitty!

We’re Adopting!

Yay! The word is finally out!!! It’s been so hard to NOT talk about the adoption process. I feel like we’re coming out all over again or something, but it’s a pretty major undertaking and we had to just focus on it internally until now. It’s been such a long time coming and such a huge dream of ours for soooooo long, but I’m excited to finally share the news with all of you. And don’t worry, we still have a lot of hurdles and a lot of waiting, so you still have a chance to come along for the ride!

We plan to update our GoFundMe page most often with our adoption progress, but I’m sure we’ll also share some of the news here.

And I have to say, I’m sorry that our production blog has taken such a hit with all of the astonishing amount of adoption paperwork, but I promise that we also have some really exciting production news coming, too because we’re so hellbent on telling our stories in the weirdest ways possible. (Hint: It’s tiny, yet it’s currently taking over our entire workshop.)

More soon. Happy New Year, Creator Friends!

Adoption Workshop #4

So we attended the longest adoption workshop yet--in the East Bay (IAC). Surprisingly, it was the best.  The best of FOUR that we've attended over the years! We are in love with this place. It was so open and honest about everything. It is the polar opposite of isolated, infertility treatment darkness and the strange uncomfortable other info sessions we've attended both in Chicago and here in San Francisco. When the meeting started, the facilitating woman shared her own story of a very difficult closed adoption.  It was nice for me to hear.  Even though I love & live with someone everyday that is the result of a very closed adoption, it is good to hear of others experiences.  It's also nice because I am of an unusual "open" adoption where I have two families that I love very much--but making it all work, in reality, is sometimes very difficult on me.  I don't want that for our kids.  I want them to feel home.  I want them to know that they are here to stay, that they belong.  --Honestly, feelings that I did not have as a kid.  I definitely have had some processing to do and I've been working on it over the past several years as we've stepped closer and closer to the adoption process.

But after this session, I feel absolutely ready.  Now, it's just the large sum of money necessary to begin.  Ultimately, that is what it has always been...It's hard to invest in a business, and at the same time, afford adoption.  And now that I've stepped out on my own with freelancing, I feel that I really need to find steady, stable work in order to fully jump into adoption.  Freelancing is just too uncertain.  And honestly, I miss working with people--surprising, I know ;-).  But I know that will happen soon enough.  Why?  Because this place is magic.  Absolutely magic.  There are so many interesting startups, companies, and organizations here.

Back to the waiting room: Then...then the nice lady put up a ppt screen and said that we would all get in small groups and openly discuss our experiences with infertility, and what has led us to adoption.  My heart jumped in my chest.  My palms started sweating and a rare feeling washed over me: FLIGHT.  I focused my gaze on the door and started fantasizing scenarios to make a break for it...Openly discuss this!? With strangers!! my inner voice was screaming!  I looked into Mariela's eyes and I knew I just had to do this and that she was with me.  We turned and just jumped right in.  The most amazing thing happened.  It actually felt good.  I felt like I could breathe.  The people were so open and warm, nonjudgemental, inquisitive, and openly shared their own stories.  For the first time at one of these awkward things--I actually felt connected to the people.  Imagine that.  It was a place that I would actually look forward to attending their day long workshops, etc. etc.

I can't wait to get started.  So it's back to job applications for me. Wheeeeeee!